Levels of Roleplay (For the ones who want to learn more)

[RP_RICK]

(05-18-2016, 02:41 PM)Cuylie Wrote:

(05-18-2016, 08:08 AM)Kyrios Wrote:

(05-16-2016, 05:57 PM)Cuylie Wrote: At the risk of drawing the ire of the Cactus God  (I keep a little one on my desk at work, so maybe my care of that particular idol will spare me his prickly wrath).

How do people find the best way to start an RP session?  I have approached some people, but it feels like they want to set-up a writing assignment with me.  And, well, I'm an English Teacher and that sorta feels like work.  Do people just kind of improvise into it, or do people find setting up those parameters are really important?  (I could understand in the sense of some of the sexual boundaries....)

For me it depends on the partner. I will happily improvise if someone wants and with regular partners tend to do that more. I am also happy to come up with a detailed scenario to play in. Not usually what will happen, but what themes will be touched on, what parameters will be included. This, though, is because I am willing to RP just about anything, but I won't improvise something extreme or unusual unless the other person has clearly expressed a desire for it.

I will also, once I know someone, build scenarios entirely focused around their tastes, without really telling them what will happen, then play through those with them to give them a really good time.

I think the last line is where I like to go.  I know you said that you tend to match the desires of your partner and I know that I tend to have a similar quality.  I think one of my own biggest turn ons is dialing and exploring another person's passion.

Repeating what you said. That last line is exactly where me and Kyrios love to explore

[blahbitty]

(05-16-2016, 05:57 PM)Cuylie Wrote: At the risk of drawing the ire of the Cactus God  (I keep a little one on my desk at work, so maybe my care of that particular idol will spare me his prickly wrath).

How do people find the best way to start an RP session?  I have approached some people, but it feels like they want to set-up a writing assignment with me.  And, well, I'm an English Teacher and that sorta feels like work.  Do people just kind of improvise into it, or do people find setting up those parameters are really important?  (I could understand in the sense of some of the sexual boundaries....)

*thumbs up* Hey, you're good. Your care of the idol gains you points.  I know that feeling of wanting to avoid over-planning. It seems like one thing to talk about what you like and another to maybe plan out a whole scenario etc.  I find the idea of just planning out some porn-scene tiresome and contrived (not that all planning is to such a level). I get that some really might want something so specific though.

[Kyrios]

Planning can be fun in its own right when you are in the mood for it though, I have spent entire days working out detailed scenes, though with an 'accomplice' not the person the scene is intended for.

[GuyByThePond]

(05-16-2016, 05:57 PM)Cuylie Wrote: At the risk of drawing the ire of the Cactus God  (I keep a little one on my desk at work, so maybe my care of that particular idol will spare me his prickly wrath).

How do people find the best way to start an RP session?  I have approached some people, but it feels like they want to set-up a writing assignment with me.  And, well, I'm an English Teacher and that sorta feels like work.  Do people just kind of improvise into it, or do people find setting up those parameters are really important?  (I could understand in the sense of some of the sexual boundaries....)

I think there is no "best" way.
It's a matter of who you are and who your partner is (like sex, dance, discussion, theatre, ...)
For instance, if we use the Myers Briggs types of personalities (http://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-perso...ersion.htm), a "E" (extraversion) guy will like to improvise while a "I" (Introversion) guy will need to lay things out first.
I know I'm a "E" and I don't like the assignment thing. RPing "on the fly" with another "E" will be great most of the time. But my best experience was with a "I" I friended a long time ago, who caught me by surprise while knowing I would jump in the story she had prepared.
My advice, for what it's worth, would be: know yourself, learn to know the people you want to play with, and then go for RP at the right time (which can start as soon as you meet the people if it fits  ). This means some active listening and asking in the beginning, but it's well worth it in my book.

[Cuylie]

(05-31-2016, 11:41 AM)IanParis Wrote:

(05-16-2016, 05:57 PM)Cuylie Wrote: At the risk of drawing the ire of the Cactus God  (I keep a little one on my desk at work, so maybe my care of that particular idol will spare me his prickly wrath).

How do people find the best way to start an RP session?  I have approached some people, but it feels like they want to set-up a writing assignment with me.  And, well, I'm an English Teacher and that sorta feels like work.  Do people just kind of improvise into it, or do people find setting up those parameters are really important?  (I could understand in the sense of some of the sexual boundaries....)

I think there is no "best" way.
It's a matter of who you are and who your partner is (like sex, dance, discussion, theatre, ...)
For instance, if we use the Myers Briggs types of personalities (http://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-perso...ersion.htm), a "E" (extraversion) guy will like to improvise while a "I" (Introversion) guy will need to lay things out first.
I know I'm a "E" and I don't like the assignment thing. RPing "on the fly" with another "E" will be great most of the time. But my best experience was with a "I" I friended a long time ago, who caught me by surprise while knowing I would jump in the story she had prepared.
My advice, for what it's worth, would be: know yourself, learn to know the people you want to play with, and then go for RP at the right time (which can start as soon as you meet the people if it fits  ). This means some active listening and asking in the beginning, but it's well worth it in my book.

I'm very familiar with the Myers Briggs personality types.  I myself usually test out to be an INFP...I will rarely get an INFJ.  I think it depends on how stressed I feel.

I agree with the broad strokes of what you are saying, but I think I want to refine it.  Being an Introvert, I read a wonderful book called "Quiet" regarding our qualities.  There is sometimes confusion between Introversion and social anxiety.  If you picture the extraversion and introversion axis, it is also intersected by the "anxiety" and "calmness" axis.  I'm what is called a "Calm Introvert," being around others isn't anxiety inducing, but it does slowly drain my energy.  Anxious people, in relations to this axis and not in general, tend to find that human interaction as, well, anxiety inducing; it causes a nervous reaction.  It is the people who rate highly on this anxiety scale that we might call "shy"

What does this mean?  Well, I noted in your description that it feels more of a war between the calmness and anxiety factors.  I test pretty strongly introverted, it surprises people sometimes, but it is because I don't get much anxiety from social interactions.  I don't need define social guidelines in the slightest, but someone with greater anxiety would.  

I think, I really feel bad for the "shy" extravert (Many people think of them as an introvert, but they are, infact not), who needs to connect with others but feels extreme anxiety around it.  I don't know, I found the introduction to that axis inclusion to be eye opening and I encourage all introverts to check out that book, it was pretty interesting.

[Sharp]

(05-31-2016, 09:40 PM)Cuylie Wrote: I think, I really feel bad for the "shy" extravert (Many people think of them as an introvert, but they are, infact not), who needs to connect with others but feels extreme anxiety around it.

I think that's me.


Anyway, to avoid getting too side-tracked, I don't RP much, if at all anymore. But when I did it would typically just go from casual chat to flirting to RP. I had a friend who I would sometimes just jump into something with, and she would either go with it or let me know early on how far things would be able to go. Otherwise it was an ongoing build up, sometimes a few hours, sometimes days, and a couple of times weeks before we finally 'did the deed.'

[RPLover]

Love the thread. I love the persistent RP. It let's you get to know the other person and develop a story of your own. Although the full RP and sex RP seem pretty good. I am, however, struggling to find any persistent RPer. I will post on the other thread and see. Again, nice thread .

[Barbiesque]

Chat to pm to RP flirting to RProgress to RPleasure.
I RP and since I do have a vivid imagination and am a constant overthinker, I'm pretty good at it, though highly detailed (any glimpse, any shiver, any shadow cast, any action has a reaction, etc.)
Strictly in Private Messages due to the character limit, though even there I at times find restrictive.
No "scenes", I never play anything but myself.
If it's really really good, then I take some of those mental images with me...for later uhm..."use". Otherwise, I rather smile about how good it was for the respective partner, gloat a little (okay, a lot).

[Cuylie]

(06-13-2016, 05:56 AM)Barbiesque Wrote: Chat to pm to RP flirting to RProgress to RPleasure.
I RP and since I do have a vivid imagination and am a constant overthinker, I'm pretty good at it, though highly detailed (any glimpse, any shiver, any shadow cast, any action has a reaction, etc.)
Strictly in Private Messages due to the character limit, though even there I at times find restrictive.
No "scenes", I never play anything but myself.
If it's really really good, then I take some of those mental images with me...for later uhm..."use". Otherwise, I rather smile about how good it was for the respective partner, gloat a little (okay, a lot).

I also tend to be me in scenes as well, I haven't felt the draw to be other people. I, also like storing mental images.

I tend to stay in PMs because of the character limit, but, sometimes having to conform to the character limit is its own creative writing challenge and can be its own kind of fun.

[Aeline]

(06-13-2016, 03:54 PM)Cuylie Wrote: I also tend to be me in scenes as well, I haven't felt the draw to be other people.  I, also like storing mental images.

I tend to stay in PMs because of the character limit, but, sometimes having to conform to the character limit is its own creative writing challenge and can be its own kind of fun.

Well, you can just send the PM and then write more. I just let my RP partner know I am still writing.