GeorgeSB, it's really unfortunate that you were ignored for what seems like no reason - and when you were being civil and polite, too!
As for your question: I feel like I've seen a lot of feedback regarding the "silent treatment."
The new "Do Not Disturb" feature helps mitigate this issue by making it clear. Still, I think it's safe to say that when the feature's turned off, a lot of women still experience what Emmie describes perfectly: a pretty constant stream of messages - not to mention the dreaded cold invites and friend requests.
Regardless whether it's a poorly-worded pick-up line, a copy-pasted "Hello, how are you?", or a genuinely nice conversation starter, the sheer number of messages can be overwhelming at times! It might sound mean if I say I don't have to answer every single message, but the reality is that it can be draining to keep up with so many new conversations. And if it doesn't particularly grab my interest, I might focus my attention elsewhere.
So, with that said, people are entitled to not answer if they don't feel like it. It's not always personal.
(Sometimes I wonder if the game's social attitude is so male-oriented that it's counterproductive. The more guys assume they have to make the first move and initiate a conversation, the lower the odds they have - against each other - of getting a reply...)
Anyway, Alaw also puts this in perspective really well:
I hope this helps more people understand that silence doesn't always mean an "attitude" or an intentional ignore!
I don't reply to every single message, but there have been quite a few times where people have followed through with another nice message a few days later, and I then respond if I have the time or interest. Like Sasso, my posts in this thread have been cases where guys have approached me for the first time with overtly sexual intentions that I don't feel like reciprocating - especially if they patronize me, use vulgar language, are being personally intrusive, etc. (Being able to respond back to these messages in a silly or creative way is actually really stress-relieving...) They are only a few of the many messages I get on a regular basis.
And lastly, a friendly word of advice to the guys who read this thread feeling offended or nervous...
As for your question: I feel like I've seen a lot of feedback regarding the "silent treatment."
The new "Do Not Disturb" feature helps mitigate this issue by making it clear. Still, I think it's safe to say that when the feature's turned off, a lot of women still experience what Emmie describes perfectly: a pretty constant stream of messages - not to mention the dreaded cold invites and friend requests.
(01-22-2016, 05:39 AM)Emmie Wrote: I think 14 invites and 5 approaches is something I'd get on a slow day, when maybe not too many are around. Now, I don't know how many are familiar with Ouroboros, or Jörmundgand for that matter. Something that begins where it ends. Also, never ending. There are days when I get on, chat with some friends, and all of a sudden I might have somewhere around 8-15 messages (from random people), but in this case, let's say 10. I start by replying to one, great job me! Check the message box, oh look, I still have 10 new messages. I answer another one, but, still 10 new messages. Just a never ending cycle, no matter how many I reply on, I still have as many left. And when I say reply, 95% of those are me saying I'm not interested.
This is me, trying to reach the end of all those messages!
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Regardless whether it's a poorly-worded pick-up line, a copy-pasted "Hello, how are you?", or a genuinely nice conversation starter, the sheer number of messages can be overwhelming at times! It might sound mean if I say I don't have to answer every single message, but the reality is that it can be draining to keep up with so many new conversations. And if it doesn't particularly grab my interest, I might focus my attention elsewhere.
So, with that said, people are entitled to not answer if they don't feel like it. It's not always personal.
(Sometimes I wonder if the game's social attitude is so male-oriented that it's counterproductive. The more guys assume they have to make the first move and initiate a conversation, the lower the odds they have - against each other - of getting a reply...)
Anyway, Alaw also puts this in perspective really well:
(12-24-2015, 08:27 AM)Alaw Wrote: Never forget we are humans! Not 'chicks', not 'babes', not 'whores', not sexbots, and the most of that, we are not here to serve you. Also, don't forget, a woman in this game is usually bombarded by constant invites and incoming chats, that is mostly as simple as 'hi' or 'hi baby' (the latter is worse than just 'hi'). While there's nothing wrong in saying 'hi' (but please, don't add 'baby', it is very vulgar to call an unknown woman that way!), getting the same 'hi' 10 times in 10 seconds is repetetive and boring. You want to impress a woman? Think! And be always ready to wait, because she can be busy.
I hope this helps more people understand that silence doesn't always mean an "attitude" or an intentional ignore!
I don't reply to every single message, but there have been quite a few times where people have followed through with another nice message a few days later, and I then respond if I have the time or interest. Like Sasso, my posts in this thread have been cases where guys have approached me for the first time with overtly sexual intentions that I don't feel like reciprocating - especially if they patronize me, use vulgar language, are being personally intrusive, etc. (Being able to respond back to these messages in a silly or creative way is actually really stress-relieving...) They are only a few of the many messages I get on a regular basis.
And lastly, a friendly word of advice to the guys who read this thread feeling offended or nervous...
(12-26-2015, 03:48 PM)MisterSmiles Wrote: I think the best thing you can do is just ask yourself, every time you find yourself online, what is it I want right now? Is it some specific roleplay scenario? A simple chat? A lady I can seduce? A kinky firecracker? Once you figured that out then act on it. Want a lady, then treat her like a lady. Want roleplay then ask about it. You just want to fuck and talk dirty? Well that's the easiest isn't it, just drop your standards in the next glass.Just keep your objective in mind, stick to your guns and you will find everything that you want. And most of all accept that you won't win every battle, and you're not required to either.
But all in all the only real advice or "formula" is to accept and acknowledge that you are interacting with another human being. They might be right for you or they might not. The only way to find out is to treat them as you would have them treat you. I know that looking around the place sometimes you could easily think that the default behavior is bitchy and bratty.. it really is not. Don't fall into that trap and add to that kind of behavior. If it gets you down then just take a breath, log out, do something else, come back later or another day with a positive attitude.
"Each night has one sound I know: the moon against the water like your cheek across mine in another life." – Sara Eliza Johnson