07-03-2016, 09:42 AM
(This post was last modified: 07-03-2016, 09:45 AM by Barbiesque.)
As someone who has dealt with harassment (from the online to irl - real situation) and sexual abuse - to the point of legal proceedings, restraining orders that followed suit, I can at least begin to address this post from my angle - without any expectation that I "know-know" what you're going through - nobody except you does.
Thus, my advice isn't philosophical or existential, it's not even an advice per se. It's just this : you have no blame, you have no take. People at times feel they owe their "significant other" something. Unless married, you don't owe anybody anything. Not even an explanation. All your connections to this person are in your head - and theirs. If you feel trapped, leave. If they stop you in any way or continue to harass - file charges. I'm being blunt because it's better this way imho.
Look up the law in your country, be clear on ending things and end them, with witnesses and whatnot. Leave the emotional attachment at the door. Clearly this person should mean nothing to you anyway.
It's that simple - yet so so hard, I know.
Thus, my advice isn't philosophical or existential, it's not even an advice per se. It's just this : you have no blame, you have no take. People at times feel they owe their "significant other" something. Unless married, you don't owe anybody anything. Not even an explanation. All your connections to this person are in your head - and theirs. If you feel trapped, leave. If they stop you in any way or continue to harass - file charges. I'm being blunt because it's better this way imho.
Look up the law in your country, be clear on ending things and end them, with witnesses and whatnot. Leave the emotional attachment at the door. Clearly this person should mean nothing to you anyway.
It's that simple - yet so so hard, I know.