Handling Unwanted Invites

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(04-11-2016, 11:08 PM)misslanni Wrote: Also, it doesn't really matter whether English is your first or second language for people to point out typos on you...I've met some native English speakers that sound worse than someone learning English at a beginner level.

I was actually going to note this in the Wanted Invites thread. One rule I do my best to follow, even though I'm a perfectionist about my own English, is that I need to be REALLY pissed off to insult someone's grammar and spelling. That said, getting those four messages in 9 minutes for the first time from a stranger would accomplish that. Good lord.

But I've met people here who say "I'm sorry, English isn't my first language," and I can tell you for a fact the last person who said that to me was really fucking hot. (Frost elves speak Czech*. Who knew?) She found a way to break through the language barrier. She succeeded because she learned what some native speakers never learn, and it has little to do with grammar. It's how to connect with someone. And you'd be surprised how things like grammar and vocabulary don't matter when someone tries very hard to reach out to another.

Or, on the other hand, how much they stick out when there's no connection, as so many of these PMs show.

* - Identity and language changed, of course.